There’s one thing that is guaranteed to put the spark back into your relationship – a vacation centred entirely around sex. Here we explore the growing trend of the ‘sexcation’ and provide tips on how to ensure it goes off with a bang…
Spice up your sex life with a sexcation
What is a sexcation?
A sexcation is a holiday usually taken over a long weekend where you focus on connecting intimately with your partner. “In our busy lives, sex ends up at the bottom of our priorities, and we simply don’t give it time and attention like we do for the rest,” says Cecile Gasnault, creator of Smile Makers and Vulva Talks. “A sexcation is a way to purposefully and mindfully take time to take care of your couple’s intimacy. It’s about seeing aside time where you can solely focus on the other person and your time together.”
Where to go?
You don’t necessarily have to go anywhere as you could turn your bedroom into a love den and enjoy 48 hours of fun. However, if you’d prefer to hide away in a boutique hotel, Mama Shelter in London’s Shoreditch has launched the ultimate sexcation package.
The offer, which starts from £198 for two nights, includes bubbly on arrival and a £30 credit to spend in the restaurant or bar. Guests also have access to a ‘Sexy Mama’ box complete with an array of complimentary adult movies and Mama branded condoms. Breakfast for two is provided, as well as a late check out until 2pm, allowing guests to savour every last moment of passion.
Tips for a successful sexcation, according to Cecile
1. Take the pressure off
Going on a sexcation can in itself create performance anxiety, especially if you have been going through a dry spell. It’s good to agree beforehand on some principles, like you don’t have to have sex if you don’t feel like it. That might seem counterproductive, but the obligation to have sex is hardly a turn on.
2. Build up anticipation
As the moment approaches, start preparing together. You could create in advance a shared playlist with songs that you find sexy. Alternatively, you could write erotic stories to each other where the other person is the main character to read before the sexcation. You could also each ask the other person to bring one item that you would like to use or for them to wear. For yourself, pack up things that make you feel sensual, comfortable in your own skin so that you know you will have a good time.
3. Create a bubble
You might not feel like engaging sexually with your partner the minute you walk into your sexcation. Take the time to unwind and disconnect from the outside world. Put your phones away, ideally on plane mode. Take a shower together to mark the beginning of your sexcation. If you have some scented candles or essential oils to create a relaxing mood, go for it.
4. Broaden your horizon
A sexcation is a great opportunity to look at sexual intimacy in a broader way. You can try new things, such as new techniques or new toys. But it’s not just about getting physical and chasing orgasms! You could share your favourite sexual memory together. You could engage in sensual tease to stimulate each other without going all the way and explore each other’s pleasure map. If you don’t feel ready to engage sexually, you could simply hug and cuddle to reconnect with each other and relax. Bring on the oxytocin!
Main image: Mama Shelter
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